Conversations With God – Failure

Everybody fails at something, some just choose to dwell on it longer than others

I know people who failed at something 10 years ago and they still talk about it today.

A failed relationship, a poor exam result, the wrong business move or, they bring up the name of the partner from that failed relationship at every opportunity.

You lost a previous job, and every time a knew opportunity comes up you reference what happened before, ‘well we can’t have that situation happening again’.

For some of us, failure still haunts us. I know that when I decided to run my mums clothing line a few years ago, I had no clue what I was doing when it came to the numbers. That was one of our weaknesses and something that I still dwell on. As a result, these days, whenever someone brings up terms like ‘break even point’ or ‘cashflow management’, my heart sinks a little. Not because I don’t know what i’m doing, but because I have this background story of not being good with numbers playing in the back of my mind. I’ve been holding onto that failure for years now, playing it over and over again.

On the flipside, I know people who have ‘failed’ and it lasted all of two minutes. They had a new opportunity, put a plan together, it didn’t work out for one reason or another, and they didn’t bat an eye lid before going for the next one.

How many times have you had a friend tell you about this elaborate plan, you speak to them about it a few weeks later, it didn’t work out, and there is no ounce of sorrow, embarrassment or disappointment in their voice when they tell you: ‘oh, i’m not even doing that anymore, it didn’t work out’.

It just didn’t work out, and life goes on.

I know who i’d rather be, it’s time for us to change the background story playing in our minds so it’s no longer destroying us but instead, uplifting and encouraging us. “But how Carl?”  I hear you say, okay, here’s a starter..

  1. Do it!
    Our lives are based on our experiences and memories (another gem from the artisan soul), you can’t create a new experience without actually doing the thing in real life. Start dating again. Start a new venture. Apply for that role. Call that person and have that conversation.
  2. Read.
    Your mind is a garden, if you don’t like what you’re growing in your garden, change the seeds you’re planting. Here’s a few seeds to get you going:
    -The Artisan Soul – Erwin McManus
    -The Power Of Now – Eckhart Tolle
    -The Slight Edge – Jeff Olson
  3. Talk yourself into it.
    This video from Pastor Steven Furtick is powerful, i’ll let him do the talking

“Success is simply going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm”

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Have a good day!